Resources
Support beyond the therapy room.
A growing collection of reading, tools, and support for your healing journey.
Resource Library
Here are some books, videos, articles and other resources.
I have gathered some trusted reading, tools, and support recommendations on Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma. These have been thoughtfully chosen for wherever you are in your journey.
This resource list is updated regularly, so please check back often for new resources.
Books — Sex Addiction Recovery 18 items
- Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sex Addiction — Patrick Carnes
- Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual and Relationship Recovery (Workbook, 3rd Ed.) — Patrick Carnes
- Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn and Love Addiction — Robert Weiss
- Sex Addiction 101, the Workbook: 24 Proven Exercises to Guide Sex Addiction Recovery — Robert Weiss
- Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men (2nd Ed.) — Robert Weiss
- Out of the Doghouse: A Step by Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating — Robert Weiss
- Sex Addicts Anonymous — Anonymous (SAA fellowship text)
- Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous — Anonymous (SLAA fellowship text)
- Sexual Compulsives Anonymous — Anonymous (SCA fellowship text)
- Sexaholics Anonymous — Anonymous (SA fellowship text)
- Answers in the Heart: Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction — Anonymous
- Contrary to Love: Helping the Sexual Addict — Patrick Carnes
- Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction — Gary Wilson
- Don't Call it Love: Recovery from Sex Addiction — Patrick Carnes
- No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction — Marnie Ferree
- Naked in Public: A Memoir of Recovery from Sex Addiction and Other Temporary Insanities — Staci Sprout
- Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love — Pia Mellody
- Ready to Heal: Breaking Free of Addictive Relationships — Kelly McDaniel
Books — Partner / Betrayal Trauma Recovery 15 items
- Your Sexually Addicted Spouse — Barbara Steffens, PhD & Marsha Means, MA
- The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships — Patrick Carnes
- Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts — Stefanie Carnes, PhD
- Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addiction (Workbook) — Stefanie Carnes, PhD, Mari Lee & Anthony Rodriguez
- Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5 Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addiction — Vicki Tidwell
- After the Affair — Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD
- Back from Betrayal: Recovery from His Affairs — Jennifer Schneider, MD
- Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction — Claudia Black & Cara Tripodi
- A House Interrupted: A Wife's Story of Recovery from her Husband's Sex Addiction — Maurita Corcoran
- Letters to a Sex Addict: The Journey through Grief and Betrayal — Wendy Conquest
- Open Hearts: Renewing Relationships with Recovery, Romance & Reality — Patrick Carnes, Debra Laaser & Mark Laaser
- The Emotional Affair: How to Recognize Emotional Infidelity and What to Do About It — Ronald & Patricia Potter
- The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life — Dr. Robin Stern
- Heartbreak, Abandonment and Betrayal (Guided Imagery CD/MP3) — Belleruth Naparstek
- Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency — Robert Weiss, PhD, MSW
Books — Couples & Relationship 3 items
- The Couples Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal — Bill and Ginger Bercaw, PhD
- Wired For Love
- Hold Me Tight
Books — Healthy Dating & Sexuality 6 items
- How to be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving — David Richo
- Conscious Dating: Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life that You Love — David Steele
- Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships — Henry Cloud and John Townsend
- Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate — Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
- If the Buddha Dated: A Handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path — Charlotte Kasl
- Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction (Daily Meditations) — Alexandra Katehakis
Websites / Organizations 13 items
- SexAndRelationshipHealing.com
- Sexhelp.com
- Recoveryzone.com
- Stacisprout.com
- IITAP.com
- YourBrainOnPorn.com
- NoFap.com
- RebootNation.org
- PornHelp.org
- CultureReframed.org
- Fightthenewdrug.org
- btr.org — Betrayal Trauma Recovery
- GROK Cards — communication tool
Support Groups — For Addicts 6 items
- Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA)
- Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
- Sex & Porn Addicts Anonymous (SPAA)
- Sexual Compulsives Anonymous (SCA)
- Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA)
- "We Are Priceless" — for sex workers in recovery — contact: saa.xsw@gmail.com
Support Groups — For Partners 6 items
Videos 5 items
- Is Sex Addiction Real? — NBC Leftfield
- A Mind Map for Sex and Porn Addiction — Paula Hall
- Your Brain on Porn: Gary Wilson's Online Guide to the Latest Science & Research
- Carol the Coach — YouTube channel
- How Childhood Trauma Leads to Addiction